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Anonymous asked: I think they're referring to the passing privilege a trans* person has if they were coercively assigned male at birth. They passed and were raised as male, so they didn't have to deal with sexism. Or something?

Speculating on the meaning of things we haven’t been exposed to isn’t really our strong suit, Anon.

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Anonymous asked: when people talk about passing privilege, are they including the experience that trans people have when they are read as cis members of their assigned sex at birth? cause I'm kind of offended, as a trans person, that anyone ever would consider that to be privilege.

We think it may be a case-by-case thing? Like, the term may be used that way sometimes but not all of the times we’ve seen it used.

But yeah, that squicks us out majorly, too.

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laughingintothefire asked: Just as a suggestion, maybe you could put a *sarcasm* disclaimer on your posts for those of us who don't understand it because of the way our brains are wired?

We do have a disclaimer in our sidebar - but looking at a lot of reactions we’ve gotten, we figure specifically noting that certian posts are sarcastic is probably a good idea.

(We don’t want to do this through tags, because those often get erased in reblogs, so we’ll probably just end sarcastic posts with “#sarcasm”, if this is good for everyone?)

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Anonymous asked: Use gender-neutral 'they.' It's actually pretty easy to avoid pronouns when you're actually talking to the person, and when you're not, 'they' is a good alternative to misgendering someone.

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hidden-agender replied to your post:

I just default to singular they. There are still people who feel misgendered by it but they’re usually quick to say so, and it’s by far the most neutral option out there.

spider-kitty replied to your post:

I just default to “they” until I’m told otherwise.

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Anonymous asked: Any suggestions (seriously!) on avoiding calling people the wrong pronouns? On a forum, I tried asking what pronouns others prefer, and just confused everyone. :/ After a meet up with a group from that forum, I felt so guilty when a guest asked me to use a different set of pronouns when referring to them online then the ones I had in person, and so sad that (guest) felt they couldn't correct me at the time, and waited nearly a month to mention it. :(

We’ve been mulling over this one for days and we really don’t know how to answer. :(

Esteemed followers, any ideas for Anon?