January 2012
61 posts
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TILFT #347:
Never let people’s actual lived experience detract from your loyalty to academic theories. The proper response to a lived experience that falls short of your theory’s outcome is pity, not a rethinking of the usefulness of theory.
#sarcasm
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TILFT #346: [ableist c~ slur]
I’m just hating on you for being crazy as balls. There is nothing at all wrong with me doing this.
#sarcasm
Anonymous asked: I think they're referring to the passing privilege a trans* person has if they were coercively assigned male at birth. They passed and were raised as male, so they didn't have to deal with sexism. Or something?
Anonymous asked: when people talk about passing privilege, are they including the experience that trans people have when they are read as cis members of their assigned sex at birth? cause I'm kind of offended, as a trans person, that anyone ever would consider that to be privilege.
agirlcalledhome asked: Just as a suggestion, maybe you could put a *sarcasm* disclaimer on your posts for those of us who don't understand it because of the way our brains are wired?
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TILFT #345:
Apparently it’s a trend to loathe a new clique every couple of weeks.
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TILFT #344:
Being white means you aren’t oppressed in any way, shape, or form. Even if you’re disabled. Or female. Or trans. White privilege erases all these oppressions!
#sarcasm
Anonymous asked: Use gender-neutral 'they.' It's actually pretty easy to avoid pronouns when you're actually talking to the person, and when you're not, 'they' is a good alternative to misgendering someone.
Anonymous asked: Any suggestions (seriously!) on avoiding calling people the wrong pronouns? On a forum, I tried asking what pronouns others prefer, and just confused everyone. :/ After a meet up with a group from that forum, I felt so guilty when a guest asked me to use a different set of pronouns when referring to them online then the ones I had in person, and so sad that (guest) felt they couldn't...
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TILFT #343:
Everyone is 1/16 Pocahontas.
Anonymous asked: What happened to #341? :p
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TILFT #342:
There is only ever one All Important Cause, and if someone calls me out on something else while I’m defending this cause, then I can dismiss it as derailing, because it’s not about the All Important Cause. I can be as much of an asshole about everything else that is not my All Important Cause, because only MY All Important Cause matters, and everything else can go to hell.
#sarcasm
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TILFT #340:
Intent is not magic. …Except when it is.
If someone says that something I’ve posted is offensive, and I don’t see it myself, then I can dismiss their claim. It’s totally cool to use excuses like “I didn’t mean it like that!”, “you’re just being pedantic”, “you missed the point”, or “get some reading comprehension!” to avoid having to explain myself, as well. After all, if I can’t see anything...
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TILFT #339:
If something happened more than thirty years ago, nobody is allowed to talk about how racist, misogynist, ableist, etc. that thing is. It was a different time!
#sarcasm
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TILFT #338:
If you want to talk about how your personal experiences as a sex worker were awful (or just not that great), you are somehow being anti-sex worker. However, there’s nothing wrong with creating a pro-sex worker culture where nobody is allowed to talk about their own negative experiences without being shouted down. Especially an online culture where pornography workers have a louder and more...
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TILFT #337:
Wanting to end oppression is a “bullshit ideology”.
#sarcasm
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TILFT #336:
If I declare that I am “not an SJ blog/blogger”, this gives me a free pass to say anything racist, misogynist, ableist, cissexist, or otherwise oppressive that I want to, and nobody can call me out on it. I’m not an SJ blog, you can’t call me out about SJ concepts!
#sarcasm
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TILFT #335:
It is not okay to think that your soul might be part animal. You need to identify with the human race. No other identities are allowed.
#sarcasm
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TILFT #334:
Wait…more than just black people are oppressed? What is this racism against Asians you refer to? Asians are always being praised for being smart! That’s not oppression!
(Mod note: Submitter specified that this was pertaining to race relations in the US.)
#sarcasm
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TILFT #333:
If you ignore POC when they tell you you’re doing anti-racism wrong, you might be fucking racist.
#not sarcasm
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TILFT #332:
I’m going to refer to you as what your body is, regardless of how you actually identify. It’s just the truth! (But I totally respect your identity!)
#sarcasm
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TILFT #331:
If you “tune out” when black people talk about racism, you might be a fucking racist!
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TILFT #330: [sexist slur]
(People assumed to be) Women are not respected when they dress “slutty” or take nude and/or sexual pictures, and this is the fault of women who dress “slutty” or take nude and/or sexual pictures (somehow?)
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TILFT #329:
Slut-shaming and telling (people you assume are) women how they are and aren’t allowed to dress (or not) in the pictures they post online is totally a feminist ideal.
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TILFT #328:
Everything in our society teaches women (and people assumed to be women) that they should be insecure with themselves - but god forbid one of them actually IS, that’s like, the worst fucking thing ever! You were taught to be insecure and now you ARE?! God what’s wrong with you!
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TILFT #327: [anti-trans, coersive-body-gendering...
I’m a cis person and if you, a trans person, get upset when I point out that you’re really [assigned-sex] bodied, you’re just being oversensitive. I’m just being honest, if it hurts you that’s not my problem, that’s just how the world is.
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TILFT #326: [anti-neuroatypical language]
If you don’t form relationships in the same way that I do, you’re a lunatic.
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TILFT #325:
It’s perfectly fine for me to use slurs to insult others, as long as I tag them. If you have a problem with this you need to not be so fucking sensitive.
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TILFT #324:
I’m a white person, now let me explain to you POC why cultural appropriation doesn’t exist.
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TILFT #323:
TV shows can’t be sexist, that’s impossible.
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TILFT #322:
Using heterosexism, cissexism, ableism, binarism, and ageism all in one askis an excellent way to get your point across, and clearly anyone who is offended needs to get over it and grow up.
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TILFT #321:
Being nonbinary makes you homophobic.
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TILFT #320:
Labels are ridiculous. People should just be proud of their individuality, not of all the silly little words that comprise their individuality!
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TILFT #319:
If you have particular problems, you’re not allowed to talk about it or try and fix it if a group that is more oppressed than you also has the same problems. And only the most oppressed groups are allowed to talk or do something about those problems. Anybody who is not deemed by those groups to be ‘oppressed’ (by personal opinion), who experiences these problems and tries to talk about and fix...
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TILFT #318:
It’s only okay to have a mental illness if it’s one everyone else already knows about. Otherwise you’re being oppressive.
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TILFT #317:
People who have identities I don’t like need to be “cured”. There’s totally medication for that, you know. If they want help (and even a “cure”) and one doesn’t exist, either their problems are not real or they’re just not looking hard enough.
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TILFT #316:
If an artist posts something ONLINE FOR EVERYONE TO SEE, it’s not bullying if you tell them it’s awful until they cry. That’s what free speech is all about, right? Everyone gets to express an opinion, and if the artist can’t take the heat, they should get out of the kitchen.
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TILFT #315:
I’m a feminist so I’m the ultimate authority on everything related to sexism and even other feminists should not (and cannot) argue with me.
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What Have YOU Learned From Tumblr?
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TILFT #314:
Starting with “I’m not [x]ist, but…” magically absolves me of any [x]ist statements that follow.
(Also seen elsewhere on the Internet and offline as well.)
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TILFT #313:
If I say something homophobic/ableist/bigoted/etc. that’s me being funny and expressing my opinion. If you call me out on it you’re a bully!
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TILFT #312:
If you are concerned that a certain word might be hurtful and make a post asking for peoples’ input, you deserve to be mocked, shamed, and ridiculed.
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TILFT #311:
If you think that some people have less of a right to live than others, and that you have (or should have) the ability to decide who those people are, you are almost certainly a complete asshole.
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Anonymous asked: Demanding marginalized people answer your every question when you haven't bothered trying to search for the information is clearly the best option then, right?
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TILFT #292:
hidden-agender:
The etymology of a word or term is much more important to talk about when determining if that word or term promotes oppression or abuse than the way the word or term is currently used.
But doesn’t that logic justify claims that a word like “lame” isn’t ableist since some people say “it isn’t used THAT way anymore”? It needs to be taken on a case-by-case basis, definitely, but...
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TILFT #310:
Google is the best resource for information on all subjects, and everyone everywhere has the same access to all information provided to anyone anywhere by Google.
n-o-o-n-e-i-m-p-o-r-t-a-n-t-dea asked: why are people learning all these terrible things from Tumblr
Tumblr is a terrible terrible place
Tumblr is a terrible terrible place
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TILFT #309:
I used to say I was [X] just to get attention, so anybody who says they are [X] is just doing it to get attention.
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TILFT #308:
Women aren’t oppressed, so it makes sense to say that women are just looking for ways to be oppressed when they identify as something that doesn’t make sense.
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TILFT #307:
People who are disabled by (only) physical disabilities are completely qualified experts on what is or isn’t ableist with regards to mental disabilities.